Monday, May 19, 2008

Pecking Order

Have you ever noticed that the way you feel strongly influences your attitude? That's partly because we're women, and women tend to wear their emotions on their sleeves. So what happens in your family when you're in a bad mood?

Well, I happen to know that in my house if Mom is in a bad mood, everyone gets irritable. With 6 children and a husband, that's a lot of bad attitudes. The other thing I have discovered is that if I purpose in my heart to change my mood, the mood of the house seems to change. It's called the pecking order.

Here's how it works: Mom fusses at Brittany, who then fusses at Stephanie, who then fusses at Valerie who then fusses at.... I think you see the picture. Even if you only have 1 child it is important that we understand the power we have over the tone of our houses.

Let's see whtat the Bible has to say:

Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son ruins his father, and a quarreling woman is like constantly dripping water.

Proverbs 31:10 "Who can find a wife with a strong character? She is worth far more than jewels.

Ok, which wife would you rather be? The quarreling woman or the one with strong character? I like the latter one! But this is easier said than done. We must really press into the Lord and purpose in our hearts to have good attitudes every day.

My oldest sister once told me that happiness is a decision, not a feeling. That has made a dramatic impact on my life. She's right. That's why Paul can say to count it all joy when trials come. I used to struggle with this verse but if he knew that having a possitive attitude was a decision, and leaning on God would give us peace in all things, than he would be able to make that statement with confidence.

So, what kind of mood are you in today? If it's not a good one, make the decision to change and then spend some time worshiping the Father who is the author of good moods!

2 comments:

Chatty Kelly said...

"If mama ain't happy, ain't no-body happy." That is a figure of speech for a reason!

I try to live my life this way also. Sometimes I miss the mark, but I feel like life is too short to be unhappy, especially about the silly little things that I can get upset over.

Whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely & Admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworth, think about such things. Philippians 4:8

The Patterson 5 said...

Sonya,
What a blessing this is to me on a Monday! Thank you. "We must really press into the Lord and purpose in our hearts to have good attitudes everyday" That speaks volumes to me as sometimes I let the bad attitude just fly out of my mouth, then seeing the negative results wished I'd only prayed first. Thank you for your encouragement!

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